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Tuesday, May 29, 2012

There's A Playground at Slugger Field



And a carousel, but I will get to that later.

Growing up, I looked forward so much to going to old Cardinal stadium to watch the Louisville Redbirds play baseball games.  If you are 35 and older, maybe, you will remember for sure guys like Vince Coleman, Willie McGhee and Andy Van Slyke who played at Louisville then later for the parent St. Louis Cardinals (Van Slyke almost killed my sister Jennifer Hayes with a foul ball, if she hadn't moved her head at the last second...it would have been bad).  Two of my favorites, however, were Dave Kable and Gene Roof.  Kable seemed to hit 100 homeruns one summer of my youth and Roof was the son of a former major leaguer was seemed like the consumate pro.  He just played and was good, just never good enough for a long stay in the Big Show. 

You would get your $3.50 general admission ticket and arrive the day of the game and be able to have good seats, in the shade.  Usually in prime foul ball territory and there was that guy there with the net, come on, you remember that guy.  I wonder how many foul balls he actually caught.  But then, you went down to the dugout and got the baseball players to autograph your program.  If you were real lucky they would give you a ball (I never got one).

We went usually on cheap hot dog not, or when the San Diego Chicken was there (I saw him a few times) and was there when they broke the attendance record over overe 35,000.  You went to the games, you did all of those cool things and you sat in your seat and watched the game.  There was rarely a time you went to the concession stand and if you did, it was about 3-5 innings into the game.

The other night, I attended a game at Slugger field and I have been before, many times, but this time I had both of my kids on "Girl Scout" Night.  We arrive and immediately we get their bobble head dolls because you want your child to have the full effect of "fun", I mean, our kids don't have enough junk as it is and to be honest, like I don't have enough junk as it is.

No sooner than we get to our seats, we begin the first of multiple times to the concession stand.  My son loves baseball and watches the Silver Creek baseball team practice and play often, but even he had enough after about 4 innings.  I turn around and my wife and children along with their cousins, the Rays' (except my friend Nick Ray) have gone to play at the playground and the carousel...at the baseball park.

The stuff is there and I have no problem with my wife taking them to get their minds off the game because it is a part of the over all experience, but what about the game?  You spend too much to sit in seats at Slugger Field that don't face home plate and right smack dab in the sun.  I don't see kids trying to get autographs, in fact, I have seen kids told to get away, if you don't have a ticket for that area you have to move away.  Don't get an autograph, go ride the carousel!!!

The way I felt that night and while writing this is a bit of sadness.  My children won't get to know about the pleasure of simplicity and if they do it will be a painful lesson, more than I had to endure.  But also I felt a little like my Grandfather who complained about the designated hitter and other modernizations of the late 1970's when it came to baseball.

Maybe I should let it go.  I mean, The Chicken (got his autograph too!) being used to draw in fans in the 1980's would have appalled my Grandpa Gilbert Hunter.  He would have argued why have this sideshow to bring in fans, there is a baseball game.  In actuallity, the carousel and playground might be less of a "ruination" of the game than some of the things I witnessed as a youth.  Maybe it is the burden of aging, we forget what it was like to be a kid and we complain how "things are getting worse". 

Maybe I should sit with my kids and explain the game of baseball and every once in awhile go ride the carousel with them too and not complain that things have changed because they always do.

Thursday, May 24, 2012

Assistant Coach Perry Hunter



No, I have not accepted a position helping anyone out next year.  I am really enjoying the lack of stress right now in my life when it comes just to summer basketball.  But this morning, I had a text conversation with a new head coach who semi-jokingly offered an assistant position with his school.  He wants me to sit down and show some drills and talk to his team and I am honored to be asked to do that type of thing.  It is nice to know that I can still give back to a sport that has given me so much.

I am not going to mention all of the schools' coaches who have reached out, but there have been between 8-10 schools who have "asked", hinting around about me helping them out.  At first, it was nice, but now it is quite humbling.  Who knew that there is some sort of respect for me "out there".  I will probably help someone in the future, maybe not, but knowing that I will have some possibilities is appreciated by me.  It will be good to walk in, work, not live and die with teeenagers making shots, then go home and relax after a game. 

I have enjoyed watching my children playing baseball and softball this spring without much getting in the way and I cannot wait to see if they play other sports in the future.  I do not want to miss my children growing up and doing their thing.  I have thoroughly enjoyed watching them play hard, compete, and trying to please my wife and I.

I still do not want to coach my own children, but it used to be 100% sure I would not.  Now, it is 95% sure and every once in awhile it enters my mind and I get a small urge (usually because they think I know nothing about sports, I am dad after all). Then I come back to reality.  Who knows, maybe someday I will decide to be the assistant for my kiddos teams that way I am not in charge and maybe I can keep from wearing my children out over their play.  I am highly competitive and my wife and I both have high expectations for our children.

Most of our high expectations center on two things, behave (listen to your coaches) and play hard.  After that, we want them to have fun while doing those two things and everything else about playing a sport.  That's not asking too much is it?  I think being an older parent has helped me calm down while my children are playing, but they are still young and you will probably see me in the near future acting like a crazy dad in the stands.  I pray that I don't.

Wednesday, May 23, 2012

The Media Attention

It has been over 2 months since the tornado hit Henryville High School and the rest of the town.  Immediately after the storm, the rush of local and national media was overwhelming.  I mean, you couldn't walk through town around the 4 way (we don't have a stop light) without being grabbed and interviewed.  It got to where when I saw someone from Henryville on the television, I wasn't even turning my head because I was getting used to it.  Now I realize the media has a job to do and I didn't mind helping them do their job.  By being interviewed, I was hoping I put forth a semi-intelligent response to represent our town.  I guess that can be debated.

But it got weird or odd to me.  At what point is getting media attention too much or gone too far?  I have only done things with the media if I have been contacted or asked to do (like the column for the News and Tribune), but I started to wonder what my own intent was with all of this.  Am I doing these things for the right reasons?  Am I trying to get notoriety or am I helping to get the Henryville story out?  How presumptuious is it that I think I can get the Henryville story out?  Not everyone thinks like I do, and maybe they don't appreciate what I say or write.  Am I helping?  Does it matter?  Yea, you probably get the idea that I think a lot about this, well really, I think a lot about a lot of things, sometimes my own thinking.  But I digress....

Since this happened, I now have had people from local to national news sources reach out to me.  I guess it is because I am the former basketball coach and it is probably easier to find how to contact me, but it has been humbling.  Why me? I mean, I have phone numbers for direct lines to national news agencies when I used to not even be able to get Mike Hutsell on the line at the News and Tribune (just kidding Mike, I know I can text you right now).

Here is what I believe.  I believe that as long as the media wants to interview me, the baseball coach, our principal, the AD....anyone from Henryville, the longer the story will stay "out there".  The longer that happens, maybe the better chance that someone will be helped because of a story and a name that has been mentioned.  If that brings some attention to me (it isn't important if it does, but it might happen) then so be it.  I finally have become somewhat comfortable that I am in a position to maybe help one person or more if allowed.  That's all I want to do is help and maybe I can do it in a different way than what someone else might do.

So what's the dilemma?  The dilemma is a personal one for me.  I am not judging anyone at all here, I am reflecting on my own beliefs in this situation.  When being interviewed as basketball coach at any time, it was clear to me what I was doing.  I was being recognized to try and bring attention to our program.  For some reason this situation was, at first, very different.  I really believe that if I were searching out attention for attention sake that is wrong because I don't believe it is about me.  That's why I have tried to use many names of people who are just like me in this situation when talking to the media.  I am no better than anyone and much better off than many of the people involved in this whole thing.  I know this, I really do.

Dependent on what you believe, you can decide for yourself.  I have spelled out the dilemma I face every single time I go public and I guess it is up to you to decide for yourself why you think I do it.  I mean, even the blog I started was for me and it wasn't really for anyone else to read.  I didn't mind if they did, but that's not why I started it.  But with attention I can tell you that it is to get the story of Darrell Gilles and his family out there, to talk about what happened with the Troncin family during the storm, and have you, the people, to take a look at your own lives, appreciate what you have and to get good perspective.

Thank You Lady Antebellum



The country music group Lady Antebellum performed a charity concert in Louisville, KY at the KFC! Yum Center.  They were able to raise $285,000 for the Henryville community.

They also gave the Henryville community a wonderful, fun night of music for our students while performing hits such as We Own the Night and Need You Now.

Tuesday, May 22, 2012

Get Motivated Business Seminar



A few years ago, I attended Get Motivated Seminar and I really believe that it was one of the things that got me headed in the right direction.  The speakers that day were Rudy Giuliani, Laura Bush, Terry Bradshaw, Rick Pitino and others.  Things I took from there that day were worth the cost and time I put into it.

If you get a chance, attend.  I promise that everyone will come away with something that you weren't expecting.  I promise that to listen to successful people and how they see things compared to the rest of us, you will see things from a different angle.  Mayor Giuliani spoke of his prostate cancer, and when asked if he was upset about it, he claimed that he was actually safer the day he was diagnosed then he was the day before, it was actually a good thing to be diagnosed.  Then he and the doctors knew what they were up against and could start fighting.

The cost is $4.95 with a workbook costing you maybe $10 for a full day of listening to successful people.  When you register, they will contact you to try and get you to upgrade your seats and you can do that or not, but I highly recommend that you attend one of these seminars.  If not in Louisville on June 20th, attend when it is in your area.