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Monday, November 13, 2017

To Keep for All Time: Brandon at the Buzzer

Or as long as there's an Internet and Blogspot.

This is my son in 3rd grade playing on a 6th grade travel team.

Thing is...he practices this shot all the time.


Tuesday, October 31, 2017

Sidewalk Prophets...You Love Me Anyway

Every time I hear this song, I get emotional especially at the end with the following lyrics.

I am the thorn in your crown
But You love me anyway
I am the sweat from Your brow
But You love me anyway
I am the nail in Your wrist
But You love me anyway
I am Judas' kiss
But You love me anyway
See now I am the man who yelled out from the crowd
For Your blood to be spilled on this earth shaking ground
Yes then I turned away with a smile on my face
With this sin in my heart, tried to bury Your grace
And then alone in the night I still call out for You
So ashamed of my life, my life, my life


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Held to a Higher Standard and That's All Right

Matthew 12:36 "But I tell you that every careless word that people speak, they shall give an accounting for it in the day of judgment.

Do my life and my words align with my Sunday attendance at church?

Of course they don’t, no one does because even as we are saved, we still sin…too often.

If you’re surprised by those words, then you are not being honest with yourself and ultimately to God about your own behavior.

Too often, we claim to be something and behave differently. We all do, me more than others I fear too much.

But one difference between us and non-believers should be that we are aware of our hypocrisies. Yes, we are all hypocrites about something.

But we should be aware of ours.

And we should try to minimize them.

And apologize, yes, we should apologize when we notice them in ourselves towards ourselves or towards others.

Growing up as an agnostic, I could not handle the hypocrites in the church, then one-day Brother Mike Abbott explained to me how Jesus did not like them either…an amazing epiphany for me at the time, and really still today.

So I’ve tried to be more like Jesus in all aspects of life. You say “yea, so that’s what you should do”, but then I see so many not Godly things posted on social media and wonder what non-believers think about hypocritical behavior.

I can hear them; “See…those Christians are a bunch of hypocrites, they post things to make other people look bad, make other people angry, make fun of people, and then they have scripture or a picture of a cross in their profile pic…. geez.”

And Satan wins a small battle at that moment.

I’m not judging you, I’m trying to hold myself accountable.

Sure, coaches and superintendents and teachers and bosses and school board members and other parents do make mistakes. They may not always do what you agree with and you feel that venting on social media is the best thing to do, but I will ask you one question:

If your child, or spouse, or good friend was in one of these positions and you got on social media and saw unfounded or exaggerated statements, heck even true statements because we all want our actions splashed on Facebook, how would you feel?

I’m asking because these people in leadership positions are not super human.

They are people just like I am and even more so…they have spouses and children and parents that hear and read these horrible things too often from people who have a biblical scripture tied to their identity.

We are all hypocrites about something, we can’t avoid it in our sinful nature, but are we as followers of The Nazarene aware of those hypocrisies?

And are we attempting to lessen and hopefully someday remove them?


I know I have a long way to go and I would appreciate your prayers because I sin and fall short too many times.

Thursday, September 28, 2017

Yes or No

West Clark schools have a $95 million referendum up for vote in November, and as a Henryville graduate, former Henryville employee and current employee of Silver Creek with children at Silver Creek schools, I am voting "yes".

Here's why.

1. It's the right thing to do.
Every building in West Clark has had considerable improvements over the last 15 years except one...Silver Creek H.S.

2. School choice.
The Indiana legislature a few years back, passed school choice. Any student in Indiana can go to any public school they want if there is room. Because of this, there are some things that need to be done to maintain your own students, or their families will take them elsewhere (it's already happening at SC). Many millions will be spent on sports and theater at SC which again will allow SC to keep its own students and could bring in more transfers.

The Indiana assembly changed how schools get tax money. The money follows the students, so by bringing in transfers, that money benefits all West Clark schools.

3. WC is actually looking ahead 10-20 years.
West Clark is historically a conservative corporation which as a tax payer, I appreciate. But it seems we have always done today what we needed 5 years ago. This referendum actually looks into the future.

4. It will cost more in the long run.
Sure, a Plan B is pure speculation, but you can make many informed decisions on speculation. The referendum will raise everyone's taxes by .23, but a piece meal, it will end up costing us an increase of $1.00. That will be done on people not capped like me and my mother and father. Many people on fixed incomes will not like this.

Plan B will happen, in my opinion, because this current board was elected after a 500 signature paper was signed stopping an increase of over $60 million.

5. The students.
All West Clark students deserve better. Yes, SC has many transfers, but isn't that a good thing? But even without transfers, SC is over capacity.

6. Safety.
There are many issues that will be fixed when it comes to safety at each building in West Clark. From entrances to cafeteria issues to over crowding will be remedied.

7. These things need to be done yesterday, a "no" vote pushes the can further down the road.

8. By passing this referendum, within 10 years we can have much of it paid down and then refinance allowing for a possible referendum in the Henryville area if said growth occurs.

9. I believe in community schools.
I believe that by voting "no", we seriously would consider consolidation of all three schools or the shutting down of just one school. I believe that students within West Clark and outside should decide what type of school they want to attend. A larger school will be available under a "yes" vote, as will a medium sized school and a small school.

And I fully believe that there will be some transfers to Borden because of the smaller school feel and experience.

10. Voting "yes" has a known result. Property taxes will go up .24 on everyone. All three schools will remain open for the next 10-20 years giving each of us our community schools.

11. A "no" vote puts the all three schools in limbo. Will plan B be implemented? Property taxes go up more. Will Silver Creek withdraw from West Clark? Property taxes go up. Will consolidation occur? Property taxes go up.

Consolidation was tried before and was over turned by a school board that was elected ONE YEAR later. This current board will have THREE YEARS to do what they see fit.

There will be no way to over turn a school board ruling three years later because the damage will be done.

12. Finally, be careful what you believe. Did you start from a point of "no" and then allow the facts to follow your opinion? Were you "yes" and then allowed the facts to follow your opinion?

I was a "yes" from the get go, but I listened and my cousin-in-law helped me realize that "yes" (if we want three separate schools) is the best option.

He started as a "no" but after reviewing the data, changed his mind to a "yes". That impressed me.

Does that mean I started from a "yes" and then found the data that supported me?

Maybe.

But I want you, if you read this, to understand a few things about my decision and yours.

I want you to vote your conscience.

I don't think you're an idiot if you vote "no".

I don't think you're immoral if you vote "no".

I don't think you're a bad person if you vote "no".

I just ask you to be informed and not Facebook informed, talk to someone from both sides of the issue...face to face.

And realize that either vote has ramifications and dependent on how you vote vs. how you feel, it could very well have serious, serious ramifications.

I'm from Henryville (I love that place and call it home), I attend church in Borden (I love that place and enjoy my time there) and I live Sellersburg and work at Silver Creek High School (I feel welcomed and accepted here) so I appreciate the love and affection that each community has for its local school.

This isn't about emails, trust of the board, etc., it's about the fact that a vote is going to be taken on a referendum and the result of that vote could very well keep three schools open for the foreseeable future, or close one, two, or all three.

That's the decision I have to make, and I vote "yes" because I believe that will keep all three schools open.

Good luck and I wish us all well as we get to the vote and the days and months that follow that vote.

Tuesday, September 19, 2017

To Give or Not to Give....?

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That awkward time during service when the idea of giving money is brought up...

You know, that part of the service where the church asks for our money and it sorta seems like they are guilting us into giving money to them.

In my opinion, televangelists have not helped this because of their seemingly constant asking for our money, but anyway.

Remember that God has told us to help, to give a portion of what He has blessed us with back to help further his work. But my own personal experience with giving has gone in three seasons.

  1.    I will give, but not that much, just enough to look like I’m doing something, but really, I’m not.
  2.    I will give obediently because I have been commanded to love the least of these.   
  3.    I will give out of appreciation, not because I have to, but my gosh, the Lord has given me so much, this is the least I can do.

2 Corinthians 9:6-7 “The point is this: whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows bountifully will also reap bountifully. Each one must give as he has decided in his heart, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.”

Don’t give if you will not do so cheerfully. If you do not truly feel and appreciate all that God has done for you, do not give back a portion of his blessing upon you.

You might be shocked to read that, but I believe that. Thankfully, during my stubborn giving time my wife was more advanced in her faith than I was. But our loving God wants a true relationship with us, he wants genuine affection and genuine giving to further his work here on this planet.

Luke 11:28 “He replied, “Blessed rather are those who hear the word of God and obey it.”

Jesus commands us to love God and love people. To do that in this world, money is a necessity. It isn’t the most important necessity, but it is really close to it.

You cannot go, give, or help often without spending some form of money.

So you hear/read that Jesus has told us to be a Good Samaritan, then we must obey and help the church and other Christian organizations by giving our funds to help more than just our little inner circle.

Mark 12:41-44 “Jesus sat down opposite the place where the offerings were put and watched the crowd putting their money into the temple treasury. Many rich people threw in large amounts. But a poor widow came and put in two very small copper coins, worth only a few cents. Calling his disciples to him, Jesus said, “Truly I tell you, this poor widow has put more into the treasury than all the others. They all gave out of their wealth; but she, out of her poverty, put in everything—all she had to live on.”

The Lord gifted me with life before I knew Him.

He gifted me with Godly people that reached out to me before I knew Him.

He gifted me with my wife who led me to Him.

He gifted me my children, my job, my talents, my friends, my family, my house, my furniture, my ability to enjoy life, to have my heart broken for what breaks his, for an ability to communicate, for breath, for my heart beat, for my good times and for my bad times.


He gifted me everything; how could I not willingly and lovingly give back a portion of my finances to show even an inkling of appreciation?