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Friday, March 20, 2015

Plank Eyed Saints



If you read and study the Bible, you know there are many instances in which future events, especially the coming of Jesus and his actions, are foreshadowed or sort of preparing us for the Messiah. I recently finished Jesus’ Family Tree and came across scripture in which Joseph found out that Mary was pregnant.

“Because Joseph her husband was a righteous man and did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly” Matthew 1:19. In Jewish custom, Joseph and Mary were considered married, though the marriage had not yet been consummated. The point is that they had not been together physically and yet, she was pregnant. Jewish law allowed, because of her perceived unfaithfulness, that Mary could be placed before the elders for judgment and stoned to death. But Joseph wanted a quiet divorce. This is before the angel comes to him and tells him the wonderful news about Mary and how she became pregnant. So Joseph must have been hurt and may have wanted vengeance or justice, rightful under Jewish law. Yet, he chose mercy or grace.

Compare to the story from John as the Pharisees test Jesus and the adulterous woman. “The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman caught in adultery. They made her stand before the group and said to Jesus, “Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?”  They were using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him. But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger. When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.” John 8:3-7

Of course, Jesus was both God and human on this earth, but Jesus showed mercy or grace to a woman caught in adultery. Though Mary and this woman are not the same, the perception of the Hebrews of both would have been equal for the elders would have seen both as adulterous women who could be stoned under Jewish law. Yet Joseph and Jesus (of course) showed mercy or grace.


We are faced many times throughout life with people who deserve to be stoned, yet how do we react? Do we throw those stones? Or do we think about the log in our own eye while looking at the speck in other’s eyes? Maybe it’s even a log in their eye, but never forget our eyes stay permanently logged. If not for the grace of God and his son’s death at Calvary, we would deserve our own stoning.

Day 50: A Nice Round Number

Day 50



I am finished with the day to day thing. I will just write, but I wanted to finished this with 1 John 4:4. Children and anyone else who is reading this 'Greater is he that is in you than he that is in the world'. Never forget that.

Wednesday, March 18, 2015

Day 49: Come as You Are

Day 49



Come as you are is a good song by Nirvana, a band from the early 1990's. It always reminded me of Just as I am, a Christian song about coming to God no matter what you've been through or what you've done.

You really do not get cleaned up before going to God, you go to God and then get cleaned up. You come as you are. David Crowder, a Christian artist, recently released another version of Come as You Are and it is much different from Nirvana.

Below are the lyrics. Never forget that you are never too far to turn back.

"Come As You Are"

Come out of sadness
From wherever you’ve been
Come broken hearted
Let rescue begin
Come find your mercy
Oh sinner come kneel
Earth has no sorrow
That heaven can’t heal
Earth has no sorrow
That heaven can’t heal

So lay down your burdens
Lay down your shame
All who are broken
Lift up your face
Oh wanderer come home
You’re not too far
So lay down your hurt
Lay down your heart
Come as you are

There’s hope for the hopeless
And all those who’ve strayed
Come sit at the table
Come taste the grace
There’s rest for the weary
Rest that endures
Earth has no sorrow
That heaven can’t cure

So lay down your burdens
Lay down your shame
All who are broken
Lift up your face
Oh wanderer come home
You’re not too far
So lay down your hurt
Lay down your heart
Come as you are
Come as you are
Fall in his arms
Come as you are
There’s joy for the morning
Oh sinner be still
Earth has no sorrow
That heaven can’t heal
Earth has no sorrow
That heaven can’t heal

So lay down your burdens
Lay down your shame
All who are broken
Lift up your face
Oh wanderer come home
You’re not too far
So lay down your hurt
Lay down your heart
Come as you are
Come as you are
Come as you are

Tuesday, March 17, 2015

Day 48: If You're Not in Charge, Be a Good Follower

Day 48



As you climb the ladder to the top, you will be under the leadership of someone who is, well, the leader. You have two choices, you can undermine what that leader is attempting to do by under cutting, publicly questioning, and doubting. Or you can help them to be as successful as they can be. I guess there is a third choice, you can leave that job, but you will continue that climb until you are in charge.

Then, you will remember how you were when it came to questioning the leader. Because now you are the leader, you will understand that the same thing is going on to you now. But if you remember what it was like as the underling, what it felt like to be treated inferior, it can help you not be just a good leader, but a great leader.

Once you have been the leader and you go back to being not in charge, you have a different perspective of leadership. Often you do not question and you can empathize with what the leader is going through, but because you have been the leader before, you still wonder if you could not do a better job. That's ok, it's normal, but you should never under cut the leader you are under.

Challenge: Help your boss be successful today. Maybe it's by doing your job, maybe it's by stopping negative talk, and maybe it's doing something extra, but do what you can.

Monday, March 16, 2015

Day 47: Jesus Washed His Disciples' Feet

Day 47



After that, he poured water into a basin and began to wash his disciples’ feet, drying them with the towel that was wrapped around him. John 13:5

I like to read. I read my Bible, but I also read books that help with historical and cultural context of the Bible. Recently, I finished a book by John MacArthur called The Upper Room. It explained scripture for what we know as The Last Supper.

While reading, John 13:5 overwhelmed me. (Jesus) began to wash his disciples’ feet… MacArthur explains the cultural impact of this scripture. Because people in that area wore sandals, there was water in a bowl used to wash your feet when entering a house. Often, a slave would do it, as no one of worldly worth would wash your feet. It was beneath them to do so.

Yet, as the Disciples argued over positions of power under the new kingdom of Jesus, he got up, walked to the basin, and washed his disciples’ feet. Disciples’…plural. He washed Peter’s feet who would deny Christ three times not soon after. He washed all of the disciple’s feet, all whom would stand by, some running, not speaking for him as he was murdered.

Yet, Jesus washed his disciples’ feet.

Including Judas Iscariot. If you believe that Jesus was God incarnate, then Jesus knew what was to happen to him. He also knew that all of the disciples would desert him, and one of them would even betray him to his death.

Yet, he washed their feet.

A few years ago, I helped with Samaritan’s Feet at the Final Four in Indianapolis. They provide shoes for young people who need them. But before giving shoes, we take their shoes and socks off, wash their feet, and put oil on them. At first, it was hard to do. I had too much pride. But it became easier and a rewarding action of my life. Could I actually wash someone else’s feet though? It would be hard to do so publicly, and imagine if it were someone you knew had wronged you or will wrong you.

How often do we hold onto some wrong that we cannot let go? Big or small, we have all been wronged and yet we will not let go of that anger or bitterness. I know I’ve done it and I fight it every day.

Yet, Jesus washed his disciples’ feet.

Friday, March 13, 2015

Day 46: Be There

Day 46



What do you do to be a successful parent? As a teacher, I...don't...know....

I have seen perceived great parents with great kids.

I have seen perceived great parents with troubled children.

I have seen perceived bad parents with troubled children.

And I have seen perceived bad parents with great kids.

I don't know.

I feel that my parents were great parents and my sister and I turned out ok, at least I did. Just kidding sis. But the one constant thing that I remember growing up was that my parents were there. No matter what was going on, they were there. I may not have always liked that they were there, but now as an adult and as a parent myself, I am so glad that they did that.

So what do we do as parents? I don't know, but I will be there for my kids. I will be open about what I want for them, I will be open about what I think they should do, and I will be open to listen to them as they grow up and have their own opinions.

I will protect them for the rest of their lives. That may mean infringing on their privacy, or waiting for them to ask.

But I will be there.

I have come to the conclusion that all parents, even the best, mess up their kids in some way. We can't help it, we're humans and we often want to force onto our children all of the things we want for them, I've just decided that I will mess them up as little as possible, or try.

And I will be there.

I love them and I understand that I can protect them to an extent, but part of their growth is allowing them to fail, to fall, to hurt....

And I will be there.