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Tuesday, September 19, 2017

To Give or Not to Give....?

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That awkward time during service when the idea of money is brought up...

You know, that part of the service where the church asks for our money and it sorta seems like they are guilting us into giving money to them.

In my opinion, televangelists have not helped this because of their seemingly constant asking for our money, but anyway.

Remember that God has told us to help, to give a portion of what He has blessed us with back to help further his work. But my own personal experience with giving has gone in three seasons.

  1.    I will give, but not that much, just enough to look like I’m doing something, but really, I’m not.
  2.    I will give obediently because I have been commanded to love the least of these.   
  3.    I will give out of appreciation, not because I have to, but my gosh, the Lord has given me so much, this is the least I can do.

2 Corinthians 9:6-7 “The point is this: whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows bountifully will also reap bountifully. Each one must give as he has decided in his heart, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.”

Don’t give if you will not do so cheerfully. If you do not truly feel and appreciate all that God has done for you, do not give back a portion of his blessing upon you.

You might be shocked to read that, but I believe that. Thankfully, during my stubborn giving time my wife was more advanced in her faith than I was. But our loving God wants a true relationship with us, he wants genuine affection and genuine giving to further his work here on this planet.

Luke 11:28 “He replied, “Blessed rather are those who hear the word of God and obey it.”

Jesus commands us to love God and love people. To do that in this world, money is a necessity. It isn’t the most important necessity, but it is really close to it.

You cannot go, give, or help often without spending some form of money.

So you hear/read that Jesus has told us to be a Good Samaritan, then we must obey and help the church and other Christian organizations by giving our funds to help more than just our little inner circle.

Mark 12:41-44 “Jesus sat down opposite the place where the offerings were put and watched the crowd putting their money into the temple treasury. Many rich people threw in large amounts. But a poor widow came and put in two very small copper coins, worth only a few cents. Calling his disciples to him, Jesus said, “Truly I tell you, this poor widow has put more into the treasury than all the others. They all gave out of their wealth; but she, out of her poverty, put in everything—all she had to live on.”

The Lord gifted me with life before I knew Him.

He gifted me with Godly people that reached out to me before I knew Him.

He gifted me with my wife who led me to Him.

He gifted me my children, my job, my talents, my friends, my family, my house, my furniture, my ability to enjoy life, to have my heart broken for what breaks his, for an ability to communicate, for breath, for my heart beat, for my good times and for my bad times.


He gifted me everything; how could I not willingly and lovingly give back a portion of my finances to show even an inkling of appreciation?

Thursday, September 7, 2017

Sensory Overload



Can bad events or potential bad events and the coverage of these events cause sensory overload?

And not just any type of sensory overload, but a burned out type of overload.

A burned out type of overload where you lose empathy and compassion because you are inundated with images and video over and over and over.

But not where you actually lose true empathy and compassion, but become frustrated because you know you should do something, you want to do something, but it is so overwhelming, you freeze and do nothing.

You do nothing because you don't know what to do.

You don't know what to do because you are used to taking of problems that are reasonably solved because you can control them somewhat.

These last few weeks, you can't control.

You can't control the weather.

You can't control the forest fires.

You can't control North Korea.

You can't control the suffering of the peoples involved in these events.

You can pray, but you can't control the situation through just prayer.

You can't control anything, it seems.

But more importantly, you can't control the indifference that your fellow man seems to have.

No happy or motivating ending...just an awareness of sensory overload, and the awakening by so many the last few weeks.

The world has been messed up before this.

Tuesday, August 29, 2017

Pray for _______________


In the last few years, we have had a mixing of horrible events and the idea of prayer.

It seems that every time we turn around there is a new natural disaster or human made disaster and with social media, it can be overwhelming.

I believe that some of why we know so much more than in the past is because of the instantaneous ability to have everything happening right now known by us right now, and it's a global as well as local phenomena.

Whether it's Hurricane Harvey slamming and staying over the Houston, TX area or some terrorist attack where everyone changes their profile pic for the victims, we are bombarded by bad news.

Which gets me to the "pray for__________".

Prayer is a good thing, no, it's a great thing, but if that's all you do, you aren't doing much.

It's as if we are overwhelmed and don't feel we can do anything, so we say we will pray and that is at least something...and I guess it is.

But as more of these horrific events occur, it is ringing more and more hollow with me.

I'm not saying to stop praying, I'm saying back it up with action.

Do something!

Send money, send stuff, go and do work yourself, send cards or letters to the victims, but don't just "pray" about it on social media.

Because the cynic in me wonders if you are really even doing that.

Are you praying or is it the knee jerk thing to say when you feel you can't say or do anything.

Please...

Please continue to pray, because I do think it matters, but are you backing it up with action?

Have you ever backed it up with action?

Will you ever back it up with action?

Our faith isn't a passive "pray" and do nothing faith, we were called to do something.

I hope you do.

I hope I do.

Best Athlete in the Family


Friday, August 25, 2017

From The Attitude of Gratitude by J. Carl Newell


How far you go in life depends on your being 

tender with the young,

compassionate with the aged,

sympathetic with the striving,

and tolerant of the weak and the strong

because someday you will have been all of these.

George Washington Carver

Tuesday, August 22, 2017

Top 10 Excuses I've Heard as a Parent/Teacher/Coach



1. It's not my fault.
2. I didn't know.
3. I didn't hear you.
4. I'm not as bad as _________. (insert name)
5. I'm entitled to....
6. I will just quit.
7. You just don't like me.
8. ___________(insert name) is your favorite.
9. I have something else to do today.
10. I need to focus on another sport/activity etc.