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Wednesday, May 25, 2016

Seniors 2016, Just 5 Simple Things to Remember


It's the end of the school year and seniors are walking out the door, here's a little advice:

1. Experience is the best teacher and usually the only one you will listen to.

2. Understand that no matter how bad it is, it won't last and you can get through it.

3. Truly appreciate the small things in life, they mean more than most big events which are fleeting and make you feel inadequate unless you're having them consistently.

4. Treat everyone with respect, when you're going up the ladder to success, you just may pass someone who could some day be your boss.

5. The sooner you realize that this life isn't about you and that the more you give back and help, the happier you will be.

And that's about it, remember those five things, oh, except credit cards....stay away from them if possible, they can be evil.

Monday, May 23, 2016

Colossians Remixed:Subverting the Empire


Went to Sojourn Midtown this past Sunday and the sermon was taught over Colossians and this quote was used during that time.

"Whatever you can imagine visible and invisible mountains and atoms; outer space, urban space and cyberspace whether it be the Pentagon, Disneyland, Microsoft or AT and T whether it be the institutionalized  power structures of the state, the academy or the market, all things have been created in him and through him."

"He is their source, their purpose, their goal even in their rebellion, even in their idolatry, he is the sovereign one. Their power and authority is derived at best parasitic at worst."

"In the face of the empire, in the face of the presumptuous claims to sovereignty, in the face of the imperial and idolatrous forces in our lives, Christ is before all things. He is sovereign in life, not the pimped dreams of the global market, not the idolatrous forces of nationalism, not the insatiable desires of a consumerist culture."

Brian J. Walsh and Sylvia C. Keesmaat

Friday, May 20, 2016

Success is...




Where I teach there is an expectation of excellence.

It is on the court, it is on the field, it is in the classroom, it is in the arts department, it exists most everywhere.

But it is not an expectation that is so overwhelming that it smothers you. It is just expected.

And what is great is when that success does occur, it is celebrated by everyone. The students seem genuinely happy for their classmates.

And when that success does not occur here, there is not a feeling of "oh we just ruined the only chance we had to win in the last 20 years", there is a feeling of let's get back to work and make sure it does not happen again, this losing.

And where I teach and coach is a public school, a medium sized public school. It is not overwhelmingly large in student enrollment and it is not a private school where people from all over the area attend.


So where does it come from this expectation of excellence?

I have worked at many different schools, but it is different here. At each of these places there were great kids, great teachers, and great coaches, but the success level was not always as high as here.

I believe it starts in the home.

Mom and dad expect their children to compete, do well, and not blame anything on their lack of success other than they were beaten.

Of course, there are exceptions to this, but I believe culturally, the success has started in the home and has carried over into this building. And that is how it should be.



Wednesday, May 18, 2016

Anxiety is...


1. Some days not knowing if you want to go on, but scared you will die.

2. Fear of every single thing taken to its extreme.

3. The worry of what others might think of you.

4. Feeling a loss of control.

5. Feeling like you are out of body.

6. Feeling like a heart attack or stroke is coming on.

7. Eating is only thing that can calm you down.

8. Feeling tired or lethargic.

9. Something that can lead to depression.

10. Something that can come on at any point for apparently no reason.

11. Something that can wake you up in the middle of the night.

12. Something that makes you feel no one understands.

13. Something that leads to frustration over the smallest things.

14. Something that can lead to addictions.

15. A blessing that has made me feel more appreciative of those times I don't feel it.