relationships

relationships

Monday, August 18, 2014

"Helping" with Football


Charlestown's former Coach Jason Hawkins is now the head football coach at Silver Creek.  His record with the Pirates was quite impressive and his coming here has added a new level of excitement to the program.  He has done a wonderful job reaching out to people in the community and one of them was me.

He asked me to be "on the staff", but really, I don't feel comfortable with that.  He wants me around for a couple of different reasons, but I think it is to be some kind of influence on the sideline.  Hopefully a positive one.  I know coaching, I have done it for 25 years in one sport or another.  When I say I know coaching, I mean that I know kids, I know how to deal with them, and I know how to be in charge.

In dealing with the kids, I think I need to be positive about what is going on; on the field.  If things are going well, great, they may not be for a specific individual.  Things may not be going well for the team, and it is important to stay positive.  However, I do not think I have been called to be a pushover or someone who is going to take it easy on the players.  I will have a smile and pat on the shoulders, but I will also be ready to be honest with them.  Blunt honesty is often the best policy.

I have enjoyed the little time I have been around Coach Hawkins, his staff, and the players.  I hope that I can do something small to make the team better, but I can tell you, it won't be anything technical.  I've only played college football on Xbox.

Friday, August 15, 2014

It's....Um....Complicated


There is a fine line with me.  There is the touchy, soft side and there is the competitive, tough side.  There is the side where I could be hit over the head with a 2 by 4 and not flinch and there is the part where one...small...word...can break me.  Yet even that does not always hurt.

But when dealing with others hurting those I care about with words or in other ways, I get a little less...um...Christian like, I guess you could say.  I handle criticism for myself much better than I do for those around me that I care about.

Plus, it really burns me if someone has a problem with me and they go to my boss (it hasn't happened at SC yet) or worse, go to social media before they talk with me.  Get off Facebook and Twitter about your problems with individuals and do what they did back before the Internet, talk to them face to face or just talk behind their back.

You want respect?  You don't want to hear me rant?  It is real simple and I mean REAL simple.  Treat me and others the way you want to be treated.  I don't care about your past, I don't care about my past, I don't care about how hard life is (it can be real hard), treat me and others the way you want to be treated.  And if I cross the line, I will give a genuine apology, there won't be any doubt what it was.

Monday, August 11, 2014

R.I.P. robin Williams


Always funny and I grew up laughing at him and then he got all serious and helped change my life.  This.....

Thursday, August 7, 2014

In My Backyard

(yep, my house in this shot)
Interesting that I get into these moments where I really do not have much to write about.  I am finishing up week 2 at SC, my new school, and I am enjoying myself.  Some things are different, to be sure, but overall it is nice.  I can walk home in less than 5 minutes from work.  I have not driven my car in two days, only using a half tank in 9 days.

Last night, I came home and mowed my grass.  Then in one big circle of the school, I was able to watch the volleyball team practice, the end of football practice, the soccer players finishing up some conditioning, and some baseball workouts.

Yesterday, I had a student approach me about a Bible study.  He wanted a teacher who would supervise the class while they were participating, and that is a nice thing.  The YFCA students pray every other morning and it has grown steadily since the first day.

Lots of great things going on here and for me.  Still....I miss parts of "home".  I miss the connections that I had with some of the students, and teachers.  Those will come here and in a year or two, the students at HHS will be gone and I won't know any of them anyway, but I will still have my short walk home and my stroll to see so many great things going on in my "backyard".

Monday, July 28, 2014

So Much Going On



I have watched my daughter and son play many softball and baseball games this summer.  I love them and enjoy watching them play, but I wonder how we have ever taught toughness, or do we?  I hear often that they are 6 year olds, or 9 year olds, let them have fun and it isn't that big of a deal.  I agree, in the grand scheme of things, it isn't that big of a deal.  However, if we are going to play the game, if we are going to keep score, then we need to participate to win. 


They are just little kids, but so are the teams that have been kicking their butts.  My goal is to make my kids tough, mentally tough, but they need to play on teams that are tough too.  Life is hard, we have to be tough.


New school year is about to begin with me at a new school.  I am at Silver Creek HS where I coached last year, but now full time, every day.  I am leaving a school, Henryville, that I have taught at, attended or coached at for 31 of my 44 years.  There is a little bit of sadness compounded with much excitement as the school year begins in the next couple of days.  It is exciting to be around the players and coaches that I work with every day to try and grow this already successful program.


Finally, you ever feel like you are a bad parent?  Yea, me too.  So often my kids do not behave with my wife and I, but they are well behaved with others.  I guess if I had a choice, that's how I would take it.  But man...this parenting thing is hard, and I feel like I am in quicksand....a lot.