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29 years coaching experience/ 7 years as a varsity boys' basketball coach, now assisting

Monday, December 14, 2009

Why Do I Coach?

There has been a lot of talk lately about how long will I coach varsity basketball, as a head coach. I can honestly say that I don't know. I hope that Henryville will allow me to coach as long as I would want to, but I understand how this business works. After every season, I think and evaluate about what we/I went through and if it is worth it for one more year. When I say "we" I don't mean the team or the season, well, actually I do mean a "team"...my home team of Kristi, Brandon and Maddie. What did "we" go through, what did I miss and is it worth it...?

I figured that one day I would miss out on some things that my kids did as they grew up and developed, but never knew it would happen at such a young age...Maddie is 5. She is quite the gymnast and almost has a back handspring down...I haven't seen it because of basketball practice. For that, I feel guilty and I feel that I am missing something. Also, she had a Thanksgiving Feast at pre-school and because of practice, I chose not to go. She was the only child there who didn't have a parent attend even though it was optional. Because of that I made sure to take off for her Christmas party, but I was still able to make it back for practice.

I have always said that I wouldn't allow my selfish want to coach keep me from being with my family, and I will not. So, when the season is over, I measure what I have missed by what I am accomplishing as head coach. Am I helping others? Am I hurting my own family being gone? Am I making a difference? Do my kids enjoy it? Am I doing something now that I will regret some day because I missed out on that back handspring?

Will I coach next year? I do not know. I did not know after the first year and every year since. I love my family, and I don't want my job...any job to get in the way of having a healthy, happy family.