|(Sit down! Coach Hunter)|
Then I became a head coach, and I realized that you cannot do that job by yourself. I needed help, often from people who thought like I used to think, but it was appreciated. I got more comfortable with behing held accountable (Wins and Losses) for what I did as a coach. You have to make so many decisions, often quickly that every one could cause the game to turn and go bad...or good.
Now, I am in the post head coach assisting time. I have no desire, right now, to be a head coach again. Probably never will, but I don't know. I didn't think I would resign when I did when I finally got my "dream" job. But now I find myself with the same thoughts about how I would do things. And I do offer advice. I just feel extremely uncomfortable in offering too much because I am not in charge. And I know that sometimes as a head coach, I got a little over loaded with "help", sometimes I just wanted people to be quiet. I am still in the process of learning when to speak up, when to stay silent and more importantly HOW I offer advice. "What I always did"....can come off wrong and should be avoided as much as possible. It's the coaching equivalent to "Well, when I used to play". Often the opening words can shut down the listener because, really, who cares.
I have had a couple of conversations with my head coach, and one thing I want him to feel comfortable with is 1. I do not want his job, I have his back. and 2. I want him to feel free to tell me to be quiet as I will not take it personally....ever. Even if he snaps at me during a game (it hasn't happened, but I might have done it a time or two, so it's possible), I want to him to know that I understand. There is lots of pressure coaching high school basketball in Indiana and all I want to do is help. That's where everything comes from, me wanting to help.
My coach has made it clear many times that isn't something that I need to worry about, but I do. I do because I've been in his shoes, and I don't want to be a hinderance, but a soothing help, whatever that means.