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Tuesday, May 12, 2026

It's Hard


We have a family member, Hannah Ray, who has been going through some serious health issues.

All brain related.

And our family has dealt with other health issues, but it's always with a body part that can be changed, helped, manipulated.

You can't do that with the brain.

She has an autoimmune disease that is attacking her brain, and she's only 26 years old.

The goal is to get it under control and to stop her from having strokes.

But it's been a long hard road, and it feels like it's only getting started.

I'm really struggling how and why this could happen to her because she is the sweetest, nicest young woman.

Yet, here she is.

Fighting for both her life and her quality of life...why her?

I cannot wrap my mind around why this is happening, but I understand I will not ever this side of heaven.

I can blame God, get mad at God, whatever, but I approach ever situation like this understanding how in awe I should be of God.

I can never understand what He does, doesn't do, allows, or doesn't allow.

But it's hard.

It's real hard.



Reality Show



We all live in our own reality.

Some of that reality is amongst others in the "real world".

But we have this movement of people who live in their realities, and expect everyone else to live in it also even though it goes against their realities.

It's my reality that we should pray in my class before class, but I can guarantee I would never force anyone to take part in my reality. I don't care if it's legal or not, I just wouldn't do that.

I do not expect everyone to bow to my reality even when it violates theirs.

It's just not right.

Now, there's a difference in forcing and sharing.

If I share my faith after class privately with a student who asks about it, that's sharing.

Forcing is telling a captive audience and not only telling them about my faith, but that everyone should partake in some form with my faith.

That's just not right.

And it doesn't matter if it's religion or pronouns, we shouldn't be forced to partake in anyone's reality because it hurts our feelings.

Grow up.

Live the way you want.

Realize there's going to be confusion.

File suit if you feel you're being discriminated against because no one should be treated differently.

But...the law only should go so far.

Cannot Believe I Had Any Part In These Two

 


Friday, May 8, 2026

Two of Best Hugs Ever

 


Same kid, 12 years a part, one as a ball boy, the other as the PG.

You think differently than me?

That's cool.

Don't want to talk about it?

That's cool.

Want to talk about it?

That's cool.

Just because we disagree, doesn't make you a Communist, a Nazi, a racist, a homophobe, a transphobe, or fearful of anything.

We have to quit demonizing those we disagree with and making "them" out to be the complete extreme of their view because we don't like what they say.

Just stop.

The problem comes from that every single issue we believe in has become some existential crisis or threat to our every day lives, and most of them just don't.

The threat comes from outside, not inside, however, if we forget that inside is safe...we could be in trouble.

Or not.

Every generation has thought that the current generation is awful and that the country is going to hell in a hand basket, and that may be true.

But we're still here.

Spoiled.

And blinded that the rest of the world does not have it like we do here in the USA.

What If I'm Wrong?


I can guarantee you that if something comes out of my mouth, I have thought too long about it.

But...

I could be wrong, couldn't I?

I try to keep that concept in my thoughts and I really struggle with some of my stances vs. my beliefs.

How often do any of us even consider that we could be wrong?

The universe is a vast, vast area, yet so many of us think we're at the center of it.

You're not.

And you could be wrong.